Places of My Life Update

My newest start may be in October

What are your October plans and goals? This is the question my friend Paula, who was the first blogger I knew IRL, posed in this post.  She started that post by recapping her September.  I know other bloggers, and just a bunch of other people in general, have expressed a view that many people seem to share – that Autumn feels like a beginning.

I know, because of who I am (a Jewish mother), that the school year and the Jewish calendar year both start in the fall.  So, maybe I’m also in the camp that thinks of this season, of pumpkins and other plenty, as the start of the year, or at least as the start of something!  This fall, I am finally, I think, near the end of the very long and painful and draining and difficult journey to where I can really think about and plan and look forward to starting over again with some hope and relief and relaxation and optimism for the future.

I am currently “feathering my (new) nest” as I am starting to furnish my apartment so it’s a convenient place for me to live.  The convenience I’m talking about here is having space and place to unpack and really see what I think I will use of the stuff I brought here with me. So far, those “keepers” seem to have been just right for that purpose. 

From a glance at my calendar over the last half of 2022, I can see, again in this fall season (and even as far back as late summer), that a more fulfilling and busy time has started for me.  One thing I know for sure is that everything I’ve had to deal with, all the tumult over at least the last 5 years and probably all the other upheavals over the last 10, seem not to have changed what I desire in my life for the rest of it! 

I want to learn more about a whole lot of esoteric and intellectual subjects from people who have spent a lot of time with them.  Philosophy, politics, religion, history, generally areas of study where we look back to help us move forward – mainly as a society but also as individuals. I just finished OLLI classes on Putin’s Russia, the history of Iran and its relations with the U.S, the philosophy of Einstein and other big thinkers and a philosophical view of the Manhattan Project.  I found it hearteningly coincidental that key figures in the latter two just happened to be scientists (like many of the most interesting people I met in Oak Ridge). In the upcoming weeks I will be learning about banned books, stories behind hit songs (mainly from my youth or even before then) and the Flint, Michigan, Sit-down Strike of 1936-37.  Fascinating stuff!

I have also pursued some more down-to-earth learning opportunities.  Many of these have come to me through the local senior center.  I learned more than I probably wanted to know, being a processed-food addicted baby boomer, from the recovering-from-cancer-and-Jewish nutritionist who taught the class.  An added bonus were the $10 produce vouchers we got to spend at the small local farmer’s market.  I was surprised that the instructor, who eats more fresh food than I do, had never tried an Asian melon. She appreciated the sight and taste of the melon I bought at the farmer’s market while I appreciated her suggestions for alternate ways to enjoy bananas.   Most of those alternative bananas are available at Trader Joe’s.  I do not frequent TJ’s nor did I frequent farmer’s markets before this class. I am now working through way too many – but delicious – locally grown apples and pears and radishes and snack size peppers from my last market visit. Too bad their celery and TJ’s processed and vacuum sealed bananas were so disappointing!

The last farmer’s market for the year is in October, but I have already moved on to aspects of my spirit I have wanted to develop for as long as my nest has been empty (of my kids).  My daughters may or may not consider what I finally produce someday from my writing and genealogy passions and pursuits, though I’d like to think they will, and maybe even get some benefit from this work I am looking forward to finally get to.  Even if they don’t, I know I want to do this for my own benefit and relief and expression. Just this last week I went to presentations by two authors where I was able to ask them questions about their process, mainly about how they find their projects and are able to get them done. This already helped to me to target a few subjects out of all of those that have been floating around in my mind for quite a long time. 

I took some stabs at a few of them in my so-old-they-are-now-shamefully-hidden blog posts and in the few vignettes I wrote for the 3 or 4 or 5 memoir writing classes I took in which I mainly only wrote notes of what the teacher said. I even signed up for a Hay House FREE 4-Day Book Writing Challenge that starts online tomorrow, and I have already taken a dive into the Aspiring Author’s Tool Kit (5 Free Resources to Kick-Start Your Writing) that came with it and discovered, to my surprise and delight, they support what I learned from the author sessions I attended last week.  I’m hoping to have a similar experience tomorrow night when I attend for the first time a meeting of the writers’ group that is sponsored by the local library.

I spent a day last week with a new friend I met online through some other websites. Laurie also has a personal blog and a business page promoting a writing group she used to run, and she has been generous with her time and gas as my personal guide around Grand Rapids. As I learned more about Laurie’s writing and the technique she teaches, she recommended It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again: Discovering Creativity and Meaning at Midlife and Beyond (Artist’s Way) as a good reference for starting a memoir as what I consider myself to be – just your average baby boomer who is now past the midpoint of an infamous (as in not famous or profound) life.  I read The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path To Higher Creativity in yet another writing class quite a while ago and was impressed enough to keep it on my shelf for future reference.

The next step I will take in “feathering my nest” this month will support the genealogy work I have jumped a little further into since my move.  Next week, when I get some labor to assist, I will be picking up some bookshelves.  Even if I don’t keep them for my next move, or if they end up not fitting with additional furniture I will buy for my new place, they are desperately needed to facilitate organization of the earlier mentioned important stuff I moved with me.  These must haves of course include a lot of books.  They also include a lot of photo albums and loose photos and other papers and memorabilia from my past and from family members’ pasts, known to me or not.

I joined the Kalamazoo Valley Genealogical Society over the summer.  They held the first meeting of their year at the end of September.  I attended that one remotely as well as the first in a series of Skills Sessions they are offering.  I already view the latter as a good way to kickstart and streamline (i.e. finally move on and at the same time narrow) what I want to do with all this stuff. I expect to be at the October meeting in person, again at the local library, when the manager of its Creation Station, will, I hope, demonstrate how to digitize some of my older family photos AND old home movies.

Finally, even before I moved into my apartment, while I was still living in my daughter’s basement, I signed up for the International Association of Jewish Genealogical Societies (IAJGS) 2022 Conference. The whole thing was done virtually and the presentations I registered for can still be seen through the end of October.  I’ve done several already and expect to get through them all at least once by then.  I know my family’s roots in America were only planted, even at their earliest, in late 19th century New York, and I’ve already learned “sources and methods” (a currently en vogue term thanks to Trump’s ignorance of the rules for maintaining some degree of classified information security) to help me search for the European origins of those roots as well as where they may have spread after being planted.

I will also be spending a few days this month in Nashville with my sister who will take me to Vanderbilt Orthopaedics for a consultation to see if, how, when, where and by whom my left hip will be replaced.

22 replies on “My newest start may be in October”

Wow! You are moving right along- good for you! I’m intrigued with OLLI and have looked into it a bit. Our partner university is north of me in what would be a very long drive and so far the zoom courses aren’t really of interest, but I keep checking back to see what’s offered. I’m also envious that your senior center seems to offer diverse classes. My very small local center basically only offers a few exercise classes and the occasional game day. The genealogy should be fascinating. I bet you will find yourself going down roads you never expected.

Liked by 1 person

I’m already headed down that path. And one thing I’ve learned through the moves I’ve made around the country as an adult is that, especially as we become seniors, and even more so as senior singles, it’s important to have as many of the resources and options we enjoy and in the long run will need to maintain both physical and mental health. So far where I’ve landed has shown that the ones I require for my mental health are pretty readily available. Unfortunately, the ones I need for physical health may not be. I’m lucky to be able to afford to go where I can get them, and can physically get there, too, at least for the time being. That’s why I’m going to Nashville for my next hip replacement!

Liked by 1 person

I concur with the comments above. WOW – that’s a lot you’re doing to revive your passions and enjoy the fall to the fullest. There is so much information out there to discover, and you’re doing great to stretch yourself and tap into the desire to learn. Congratulations on so many levels! This book is a good, nice choice to use as a reference or a workbook: It’s Never Too Late to Begin Again: Discovering Creativity and Meaning at Midlife and Beyond (Artist’s Way). I wish you wonderful discoveries as you continue healing and growing. 🤗

Liked by 1 person

No time like the present – you’re certainly not messing around. I’m very impressed. I’ve wanted to read the artists way for some time now. This was a good reminder to place it at the top of my list. Thank you for sharing and all the best with all of your endeavours. 🙏

Liked by 1 person

I find that my creativity and productivity aligns with the seasons. Fall brings more reflection, Jewish holidays, cleaning out things, and planning projects along with a new school year. I wouldn’t call your endeavors “busyness” though. While ambitious in scope, they sound meaningful to you and opportunities for growth and enjoyment.

Liked by 1 person

I’m working on it, especially since I was “forced” by Ancestry to renew my membership for another 6 months! I have at least now gone through all the boxes of stuff I moved with me and have it organized enough to decide what part of my family history I want to tackle first. Meanwhile, I have also decided that I still want to pursue becoming a snowbird. Any tips/advice you could share about Florida in that regard would be appreciated, though I recently caught a news feature about how much housing cost has risen there!


I personally like the east coast of Florida north of Jupiter to around Vero Beach and the St. Petersburg area for snow bird relocation.
Much of Florida is like Alabama to me if you know what I mean. Happy Holidays.

Liked by 1 person

I wanted to go backwards and see what I’ve been missing here. I’ve been very fuzzy headed since Oct after I got Covid on my trip so I’m finally starting to catch up…a little. You have a lot going on here in just this post! I have a cousin that did a great deal of genealogy for us but don’t have any grandchildren to leave the information with. Most of my mother’s family history was lost in the second WW. I did a DNA test and was right all along. There is a little Jewish in our family. People who condemn others don’t realize we are all connected in some way. I admire all the research and reading you do. I’m a bit slower at it so a lot is audible or video. It’s incredible what I can learn from TED talks and YouTube. Moving is hard. I did a year of couch surfing when I first divorced then had 4 more moves. This is my last. It’s not easy and takes a lot of energy. I’ll keep reading until I find out how the hip replacement went. I have all of Julia Cameron’s books on my shelves. I’m a funny person. If a person don’t have shelves of books in their home, I’m never sure I want to get to know them. 🙂 I still write morning pages in addition to journaling at night. I’ll be back later to read more. Going upstairs for coffee with the old folks. 🙂

Liked by 1 person

Thanks for taking the time to dig up and review my older posts. Life goes on, doesn’t it? I have a mental 5 year plan that may lead me to a place similar to your current one i.e. one where other people live, too. Recovery from my (left) hip replacement has been miraculous, at least in comparison with my right one 5 years ago!

Liked by 1 person

I didn’t like this place when I first moved in but every day, I like it more and more. Physically, the surroundings are rather blah, but the people here looking out for each other, gently. has made all the difference in the world. When I got quiet in my meditation/prayer, this was the right answer for me rather than a great big expensive and fancy facility. I feel cozy here. Good luck with your hunt. No 5 year plan here. Hope for another day is as far as I go. I’m racking them up. 🙂

Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply to dennyho Cancel reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s